By Abhey Singh (IIT Baba)
Ref Original Article: 6. Life and love – Abhey Singh
Life moves, love moves with it. One flows, and the other responds. This is the rhythm of existence—the music of life.
Just as music is not just a series of notes but the harmony between them, life is not just about movement but the balance between effort and surrender. Every art form, every human endeavor, seeks to capture this essence—to reach a state where thought and action become one, where will and letting go exist together.
But how does one truly experience life? How does one distinguish between the real and the illusion? These are not just philosophical questions; they define our very existence.
This article will break down the nature of life and love, the role of thought, and the key to experiencing life fully.
1. Life is a Dance: The Flow of Movement
“One moves and the other moves accordingly. It’s the music of life.”
Life is not a solo act. It is a dance—an interplay of actions, reactions, and relationships. Just as a dancer does not move in isolation but in response to music, space, and a partner, we are constantly adjusting, responding, and creating rhythm in our lives.
But what makes a dance beautiful? Synchronization. Not force, not resistance, but flow.
Example:
Imagine two dancers—one stiff, controlling every step, and the other fluid, adjusting with the movement. Which one embodies life?
Life does not ask for control; it asks for participation. It asks us to be in sync with what is rather than fighting what should be.
To truly live is to flow with life, not against it.
2. The Human Struggle: Thought as Both Problem and Solution
“Human endeavor to realize thought is both the problem and the solution. Logic is a stair, but the direction can’t be known by logic.”
We pride ourselves on thought, on logic, on intelligence. Science, philosophy, religion—all human pursuits are rooted in the desire to understand.
But thought alone is not enough. Thought is a tool, a ladder—but where does it lead? Thought can build ideas, but it cannot give direction. It can question life, but it cannot experience life.
Example:
A person studying love in books may understand every theory, every psychological aspect, but unless they fall in love, they will never know it.
Thought can guide, but only experience reveals.
3. The Illusion of Reality: How Do We Know What is Real?
“There is too much out there. How does one realize the real?”
In today’s world, the difference between real and fake is harder to see. Artificial flowers look real. AI-generated art feels human. Even emotions are sometimes performed rather than felt.
So how do we distinguish? The answer lies not in appearance but in experience.
Example:
A plastic rose may look perfect—it might even feel and smell real. But when you hold a real rose, something deeper is felt. The energy of something alive can never be fully imitated.
Similarly, in life, we must develop the sensitivity to recognize what is real—real love, real connection, real experiences.
The mind may be fooled, but experience never lies.
4. Sensitivity: The Key to Realization
“The sun may be covered by clouds, but the sun is there. It can still be felt by someone sensitive.”
Truth does not disappear just because it is hidden. A person standing under clouds may not see the sun, but they can still feel its warmth.
Similarly, life’s deeper truths—love, beauty, presence—are always there. But only those who are sensitive can recognize them.
Example:
A person walking through a forest—one might see just trees, another might feel the life around them, hear the whispers of the wind, sense the earth breathing. The difference is in sensitivity.
To realize life, one must be open, not just seeing but feeling.
5. Words vs. Experience: The Nature of Action
“Will these words reach, or will they also get buried in piles of words?”
Words are everywhere. We read, we listen, we consume. But does it change us?
Words can only point. They cannot act for us. Only action makes something real.
Two people can say “I love you,” but one may say it with presence, with meaning, while another says it out of habit. The same words—completely different realities.
Example:
A musician may play the same song a hundred times, but each time, the emotion, the flow, the energy changes. This is life—constantly new, constantly alive.
Life is not in repetition. Life is in the present.
6. The Difference Between Judgment and Openness
“Is there room to stop? Or is it like a continuous flow of judgments?”
When we live in constant judgment—of ourselves, of others, of life—we create barriers. These barriers prevent us from experiencing what is.
Openness means allowing life to flow through us, without forcing meaning, without controlling the outcome.
Example:
Imagine a conversation where one person listens only to respond, constantly judging what is being said. Now imagine another person who simply listens, fully present.
Which one experiences the conversation?
Judgment blocks life. Openness allows life.
7. Life and Love: The Experience of Flow
“Life is in love. It can be experienced if one is open.”
Love is not something to be found. It is something to be experienced.
Life, like love, is not an object but a state. It is not something external to be acquired but something internal to be realized.
Just as light passes through glass, love passes through us when we are open. When we resist, we block it.
Example:
A flower does not try to attract the sun. It simply opens, and the light enters.
Similarly, love does not need to be chased. It needs to be allowed.
8. The Disappearance of Boundaries: Becoming Life Itself
“If one allows the light to flow through, the sound to flow through, the touch to flow through, the boundary will disappear, and life will be realized.”
We experience life through separation—we see ourselves as different from the world, different from others. But the moment we drop this boundary, life is no longer something outside of us—it is us.
Example:
A drop of water in the ocean may think it is separate, but the moment it dissolves, it realizes it has always been the ocean.
Life is not something we live. Life is what we are.
Conclusion: Living as Love, Living as Life
What is life? What is love? They are not separate. They are the same.
- Life moves. Love moves with it.
- Life flows. Love is the experience of that flow.
- Life is. Love is the realization of being.
To experience life fully, one must be open. To be open is to love.
And when love flows freely, without resistance, without control, without judgment—then life, in its truest form, is realized.
Let go. Open. Be.
Because life is not something to understand. It is something to live.
