By Abhey Singh (IIT Baba)
Ref: original article: 1. love
Love—is perhaps the most spoken, written, and debated emotion of all time. Yet, for all our efforts to define it, love remains beyond the grasp of words, beyond the limitations of thought. It is not something to be owned, forced, or even fully understood. Love is.
In this article, I attempt to break down the essence of love—not as an emotion bound by relationships or expectations, but as an existence, a state of being. If you are reading this, I invite you to not just analyze these words but to feel them, to let them flow into your own understanding.
1. Love Exists Only in Togetherness
“I am because you are. The singer and the song exist in each other. The lips are felt on one another.”
Love is not something that exists in isolation. A song without a listener is just a collection of notes. A bird without a tree to land on is just a wandering body. Love is not about possession but about being with and existing together without hesitation.
Example:
Consider a river. It flows effortlessly, touching every rock and curve in its path. The river does not resist or try to force itself into a straight line. It moves in harmony with the land, and in that movement, it exists fully. Love is the same—an acceptance, a surrender to the flow of existence.
True love is not force; it is absolute agreement. It is the dissolution of “I” and “you” into a shared experience.
2. Shedding Layers: Love as Pure Presence
“Will one let go of layers and come out naked? Not just physically, but mentally.”
Society conditions us to wear layers—not just clothes but identities, expectations, and judgments. We define ourselves by our careers, our nationalities, and our beliefs. But love is the space where none of that matters.
To truly love is to stand before someone without any masks or pretenses. Love is not about what you will become but about accepting the now, the unfiltered present.
Example:
Think of a child. A child does not love based on logic or judgment. A child simply exists in the moment, expressing love without expectation. This is why a child’s hug feels so pure—it is free of conditions, free of “if you do this, then I will love you.”
Love is not in the future. Love is now.
3. Light and Dark: Love as Balance
“The sun is light, but everything it lights is also light. Light exists because dark exists.”
Love cannot exist without contrast, just as light cannot exist without darkness. If there were no pain, no suffering, no absence, would we even recognize love when we feel it? Love is not just in joy; it is in loss, in longing, in silence.
Example:
A person who has never faced hardship may take love for granted. But someone who has walked through loneliness, who has known the weight of despair, will recognize even the smallest act of love—a kind word, a gentle touch, a moment of understanding—as something profound.
Love is not just the presence of light; it is the recognition of it against the darkness.
4. Love vs. The Imitation of Love
“Sex is a cheap imitation of love. It’s trying to copy an experience.”
Modern society often confuses love with attraction, attachment, or possession. Sex, romance, passion—these can be reflections of love, but they are not love in themselves.
True love is not about desire; it is about presence. When love is conditional, when it is based on expectations of how someone should act, it is no longer love—it is a transaction.
Example:
Think of two dancers. If one dancer forces the other to move a certain way, the dance loses its beauty. But when both move freely, in harmony, without controlling each other, the dance becomes effortless. That is love—a state where two people exist fully, without control, without resistance.
Love is not an act. Love is the state in which all acts are accepted.
5. Love is Not Selective
“Love can’t be for someone or something. Love is.”
True love is not something we “give” to one person and “withhold” from another. If love is real, it is universal. It does not change based on circumstance. It does not belong to only one person.
If I love only my family, only my friends, only those who agree with me—then it is not love, but preference. Love is only love when it exists without boundaries.
Example:
Think of the sun. The sun does not choose who receives its light. It shines on all—on the rich and the poor, the good and the bad, the strong and the weak. It does not judge. Love, in its purest form, is the same—it simply is.
6. Love is Freedom, Not Control
“Complete freedom lies in just having ‘no choice’.”
Love is not about shaping someone into who we want them to be. It is not about controlling outcomes. It is about absolute acceptance. The moment love becomes a choice—“I will love you if…”—it loses its essence.
Example:
A flower does not bloom because someone commands it to. It blooms because blooming is its nature. Similarly, love is not something to be forced or demanded; it happens naturally when we stop trying to control it.
Love is effortless. Love is letting things be as they are.
7. Love is the Ultimate Truth
“Love is in harmony, in co-existence, in being no friction in me being me and you being you.”
At its core, love is the absence of resistance. It is the place where “I” and “you” exist together without conflict, without force, without judgment.
When love is real, it does not need to be justified. It does not need to be defended. It simply flows, like water, like wind, like life itself.
Final Thought:
If there is one truth in all of existence, one force that remains when all else is stripped away, it is love. Not the love we have been taught to seek, not the love we attach to conditions, but the love that simply is.
To live with love is to live without resistance. To love fully is to accept fully.
And in that acceptance, we find the freedom we have always been searching for.
Conclusion: Living Love Every Day
Love is not a word. It is not an action. It is not a feeling reserved for special moments. It is the state of being completely present, completely accepting, and completely open.
If you have read this far, ask yourself: Am I resisting love in my life? Am I holding onto conditions, expectations, judgments? Or am I allowing love to simply be?
Because the moment you stop searching for love, the moment you stop trying to define it—you will realize that it has been here all along.
