5. Attachment – Abhey Singh

Medium Post 5: Attachment – Abhey Singh, May 19, 2021

Comfort in repetition is attachment. Repetition defines our current concept of ownership. Ownership is attachment. Attachment, by definition in words, is attaching to something, not you. There are 2 fundamental errors here: one is to assume your boundaries and, in a sense, the answer to ‘Who am I?’, and the second is trying to own what is now considered not you.

First, I will divide into segments, and then I will try to expand and unite by forcing other segments. This force is attachment. Attachment limits one’s freedom of direction, and thus, it confines. Attachment, although it happens to both sides, the direction it most commonly goes is outward. It’s to include others in me rather than let go of yourself and be part of others.

Attachment can never be love, love lies in freedom while attachment lies in restriction. Attachment is a rope to not let it move away; it’s fear.

Attachment is dependence. Dependence is different from co-existence. Dependence here means one-sided dependence. Co-existence is the realization that one exists because of the other. That there is not even an option to not depend.

One wants to fill our own loneliness by owning. The more I own, the more I will have rights….it doesn’t work that way, though, and the more I own, the more fear I will have. It will become impossible to enjoy what is present.

Attachment in the name of love, in the way of protection, is the most complex. It relies on survival instinct so it becomes difficult to separate what’s needed and what’s fluff. What’s fundamentally wrong with this is the one protecting will be acting in his/her limited mental scenarios. No 2 leaves are the same; even though there is something shared, the actual leaf will unfold when it’s left to its own. As said by multiple ways – what is to be will be.

In the most deep way of the word, attachment means being limited in form. The most basic attachment is attachment to the human form. That’s the limitation that separates one from the infinite. So attachments are not one-sided. The entire consciousness of this form is attached or it’s one. This realization, where one realizes what can be known, where the boundary is, where the limitation is, is the only truth that can be known by the mind. This is what can happen by logic when the last attachment to knowing is removed.